Let’s break the stigma for good~ #ThePeriodParty

I’m SO EXCITED to FINALLY be writing this.


So for those of you who don’t know (and if you don’t, WHERE THE HECK HAVE YOU BEEN?!?!?!), the #ThePeriodParty movement was created a few weeks ago by the truly inspirational and generally wonderful Ash, to inspire women and men alike to finally break the horrible, completely unnecessarily stigma that surrounds periods, and to raise awareness of the situation that some girls are faced with, simply because they can’t afford to pay for basic, necessary sanitary products.

How would you feel if you were robbed of your education, or your childhood because you are unable to go out and act normally for a week every month for such a large proportion of your life, simply because you didn’t have the protection that you needed? Girls as young as 10 are having to face period poverty without any support, and this needs to end.

By talking about our own experiences, we are slowly breaking down the barriers that surround periods, and consequently putting an end to period poverty for good!

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Us putting an end to period poverty for good!!!!!

My experiences: 

Pretty much every day I witness blatant ignorance when it comes to periods and the pain and discomfort that they cause some women, and them constantly being pushed off as a joke, and just us women being ‘over-dramatic’. Whether it’s teachers not allowing girls who are obviously uncomfortable to go to the toilet or go to get paracetamol, or people always asking ‘Oh, are you…. you know?’ when all your having is an absolute shit day, there’s no getting away from it. I’ve even had one of my best friends give me a quizzical look when, in the girls P.E. locker rooms, I pulled a pad out of my bag… I mean, come on, like you don’t have to use them as well…

This ignorance is due to the fear that people seem to place around talking about periods, and the monthly menstrual cycle, and it needs to be stopped! I’ve never understood why periods were seen as such a taboo subject; surely every woman has to have them for pretty much the majority of their lives (yes, even your nan), and to be frank, if they didn’t nobody would even exist, as women wouldn’t ovulate. This has gone on for too long.

My mum:

So I’ve mentioned a few times on here and on my old blog about my mum having to have a large operation back in the end of October. For as long as I can remember, every month she would be unable to move from her bed for days, due to the pain that was being caused by her periods. She would be so horribly ill and in pain, that when her bleeding finally came to an end, she would spend the next three weeks recovering, so it turned into a never-ending cycle.

Eventually, after years of persuading doctors, she was finally given the opportunity to have a hysterectomy, which basically involves having all of your reproductive organs taken out, stopping her periods for good. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not all a bed of roses, it was a major operation after all. She was so ill and frail afterwards, and now nearly four months down the road, she’s still in the early early stages of recovery, but there’s definitely some light at the end of the tunnel.

I think that, as horrible as it was, watching my mum have to go through all of that pain has meant that I’ve never been able to ‘shy away’ from the fact that, yes,  periods do exist, and they’re not as pleasant as the adverts make them out to be. In a way, personally, I’ve never felt the need to talk in hushed voices about periods before, and I’ve never particularly felt the stigma around it, I’ve just had to watch others feel it instead.

My first period: 

To be honest, this is actually quite a funny story, that I’ve never actually told anyone 100% truthfully before.

From what I can remember, it came just after my 12th birthday (or was it just before my 13th?? either way, I wasn’t really expecting it). I think that deep down I did realize that it was coming, as I’d had really bad stomach cramps the weeks before, but I didn’t want to admit it. I didn’t want to have to start growing up…

I was at my nans (who is basically like my second mum, so I have NO idea, why I was so scared to tell her), and I remember going to the bathroom and seeing this huge, reddy brown stain all over my nice, white pants (suffice to stay, I stick to black underwear now😂😂) , and to start with I thought that I shat myself without knowing it!!! When I realized what had happened, despite everything that had happened with my mum, I was too petrified to tell anyone, so for a whole 24hrs, even overnight, I stuffed toilet paper in my knickers so that it didn’t leak through, and didn’t tell anyone, even though I had awful stomach pains.

The next day, when I was at home, I left it a good few hours before I plucked up the courage to tell my mum. I went into the bathroom, and came out a few minutes later, and said something along the lines of “What you thought my tummy crams were….. you were right….”, once she clocked on to what on earth I meant, she literally burst into tears, and then gave me a hot water bottle, and ordered me to go and sit on the sofa. 😂

Looking back, I really have no idea why I was so nervous, but I guess that’s how children’s minds work, ‘eh.

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To be honest, I don’t really have any cringey or funny period story’s, as bad as it is, I try to avoid going out as much as possible when I’m on my period, as, like my mum, I’ve always suffered from such bad pain and heavy bleeding, that I can hardly move, and I’m always terrified of leaking. Luckily, after a year and a half, they’re finally starting to sort themselves out a bit, and become less heavy and painful, so I’ll be able to start going out a bit more without being so afraid.


How can you do your bit to help?

If my rambling, or Ash’s post, has inspired you in any way, there are so many ways that you can do your bit, to start demolishing the stigma surrounding periods, for good.

  • You could sign this petition, which is calling on the government to allow girls who receive free school meals, to also be able to receive free sanitary products;
  • Get involved on social media by using the hashtag #ThePeriodParty , to make sure that this important message reaches a much wider audience;
  • Share your period stories, whether it be on social media using the hashtag, or simply to your group of friends at lunch-time, by sharing your stories, you are helping to rid the taboo;
  • Just get talking- whether it be to your parents, your school friends, or some random stranger that you bump into, try and raise as much awareness about this message as possible.

Before I go, I want to really congratulate Ash on creating the amazing movement and inspiring so many people around you, with hopefully many more to go. If you want to find out more about period poverty, I’d definitely recommend this TedTalk by Amika George, which is just truly inspiring.

For now,

Love, Emillia

P.S: I’m sorry that this post is a few days late, all of my productivity this half term, has just flew out the window 🙂

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My guilty pleaures….

Hello blogosphere,

I feel really bad as I keep falling into the annoying habit of basically ignoring the fact that I have a blog, and simply stop posting on here AND Twitter, and then returning for a week or so, and then repeating the process all over again. I am trying to stop, but sometimes I can’t help it, especially with exams and homework and the world just being stupid.

Anyhoo, I’m back now and thought that it would be fun to share all of my guilty pleasures…


Music: 

  1. Cheesy boybands: Lately I’ve rekindled my love for bands which I haven’t listened to in years, mainly McFly, Scouting For Girls and Busted. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with deep, meaningful ballads or rock, but sometimes you need some cheesy, upbeat, songs about how a bunch of teenage boys are hopelessly reaching for girls way out of their league, or how they desperately want to be James Bond.
  2. Old-school Taylor Swift: A while ago, much to my family’s dismay, I went through a massive country-music phase. Although that’s passed now, sometimes you just need to hear all about poor TayTay’s heartbreak, through an upbeat country-style song.
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“‘Cause obviously sheeesss out of my league….” Did anyone hear me?!?!?!

Food:

  1. Pasta: Ironically, as I’m writing this, I’m eating a bowl of cheesy pasta for my lunch 😂. Whether it’s macaroni cheese, spag bol, lasagne or just plain cheesy pasta, I simply can’t get enough of the stuff. I know it’s full of carbs, and probably isn’t amazing for you in massive truckloads, but I really don’t care.
  2. CAKE!!!: I COULD JUST LIVE OFF CAKE FOREVER AND EVER AND EVER AND EVER AND EVER…… It’s just so versatile: you can have it with custard or ice cream for the perfect dessert, on a diet? Who cares, eat carrot cake! Happy birthday, here have some cake. Merry Christmas, look at this amazing fruitcake. Aww, you broke up, come eat your weight in chocolate cake. SEE!!! It’s amazing!!!
  3. Take away pizza: I don’t know why, but no matter how hard I try, no pizzas that I try can beat the amazing greasy, cheesiness of a takeaway pizza.

Books: 

  1. MG books: Sometimes, especially if I’m feeling a bit low, I just need to pick up a good MG romance to cheer me up. As much as I love to criticize books, I do have a love for the predictability of MG books. My favorite series, one of the first books that I actually read, is the Geek Girl series, by Holly Bourne. Although I hate to admit it, I have the WHOLE 6 part series on my bookshelf, and they never fail to cheer me up and make me laugh when I’m down.
  2. Drarry Fanfiction: I’ve talked about my love for all things Drarry a few times on here, but not very often. Due to school work and stuff, I haven’t really had time to read any fafictions, but I know it will always make me smile. It’s not just Drarry that I read, but it’s normally all Harry Potter based; there’s just such an AMAZING and welcoming community around the HP series, in a way, it’s pretty similar to the blogging community.

T.v.:

  1. Friends: I just LOVE LOVE LOVE a good friends marathon, I’m lucky as we have Sky, and it’s nearly always on one of the channels at some point. I don’t know what it is I love about it so much, they’re just so brash and don’t particularly care who they offend. It really cheers me up and makes me laugh no matter how many times I watch it.
  2. Modern Family: This is pretty similar to friends I guess, it’s just so funny, and I can kind of relate to my family a bit!!😂😂

That’s it for this little post, sorry it was so short, I’ve just had no inspiration what so ever lately, and have no idea what to write.

Do you have any guilty pleasures?

For now,

Love, Emillia

 

January review + February goals

I can’t believe January’s gone already!!!! Loads of people have been saying that it just dragged by, but, for me at least, it just flew by right before my eyes. In one way it was a really great month, I finally started my counselling, which I’ll write about soon hopefully, and I’ve also been coping better with the endless amounts of homework that we seem to be getting; yet a lot of things feeling wise have been building up inside, and I need to find a way of letting them all out. I guess I just need to find ways of coping that work for me.


Blogging:

This month I’ve been pretty good with my blogging game, although I did have a bit of a break last week. I posted 7 times which I thought was actually quite good; I’ve started a bit of a blogging schedule, posting ‘real’ posts every Monday and Friday, and then a more casual, feelings post when I feel that I need to. This seems to work nicely, so hopefully I’ll be able to stick to it as the months go on.

I had 154 views, and 70 likes, considering this was my first full month writing on WITS, I was actually quite happy with that.


Did I complete my January goals?

This year, I decided to go ahead and set a few little resolutions (read them here), and thought that I’d set monthly goals to help me achieve them. But the real question is, did I actually complete them??

  1. Start my counseling: I’ve actually had 3 sessions so far, I I’m starting to kind of, somewhat piece together all of the thoughts that are constantly whirling around my head. I’ve got 3 sessions left, but feel like I should be ask for a few more, as I’m just worried that as soon as they stop, I’ll do a U-turn, and go back to how I was.
  2. Be more social? : I’ve never been much of a ‘social butterfly’, as they call it, and been much more of a ‘home bird’, especially these past few months, with losing my brother A and everything, I’ve just wanted to stay at home. As much as I hate to admit it, when I do decide to go out with my mates, I do actually have a good time. This month I only went out twice, once to the cinema, and once that ended up with us jumping into the sea pool in our clothes 😂😂!! I hope that as the weeks and months go on, I’ll be becoming more and more social though.
  3. Read 4 books: I actually read 7 books this month (maybe I’ll write some reviews on them at some point), and although I’m slightly behind target regarding my goal to read 100 books in 2018, I’m still quite proud.
  4. Take part in more bloggers chats: This is the goal that I was most disappointed with myself in. At the beginning of the month, I started taking part in loads, but a few weeks in, I simply just kept on forgetting!!! Hopefully, I’ll work on that soon 😂 I did love taking part in the ones that I did though, and can’t wait to do more.

My February goals:

  1. Read 6 books: As you can most probably tell, I’m trying not to put too much pressure on myself when it comes to how many books I read, as then I just tend to give up halfway through. I’m in an annual book club thing with school and have 5 books (I think….) to read, so they should keep me occupied.
  2. Start taking a new, interesting photo every other day (at least): One of my big goals of 2018 was to start up photography again. I just find it so relaxing and enjoyable. I think every other day is pretty achievable, and hopefully I’ll be able to share them on here at some point…..
  3. Try to open up more? : I’m not going to go into much detail, this is more of a personal issue that I don’t want to share just yet, but I definitely need to try and open up more with people if I’m ever going to get any help as to moving on.
  4. Try to do one little act of kindness every day: So today we had one of those really cheesy, predictable assemblies about kindness, and how one simple, little act of kindness can really make someone’s day.  As much as I dissed it, it did really make me want to try and do something like that. I figured I’d start small, whether it’s giving someone some change that they need for their shopping, or simply helping more with the housework; and then possibly do a bit more as the month goes on.

I hope that you enjoyed my little January review and February goals. I’m not going to set many this month, as I’ve got TONNES of homework and tests, which I need to focus on, and next week is also half term, and all I want to do is relax…..

Until next time,

Love, Emillia

The Sunshine Blogger Award

So last week I was tagged by the lovely Megha over at Delightful Discoveries to do the Sunshine Blogger award. I was so excited, as this would be my SECOND tag of 2018!!

I loved reading her answers (here) and can’t wait to answer the questions that she set.

Without further ado, let’s get into the post.

Enjoy x


The rules: 

1. Thank blogger(s) who nominated you for the blog post and link back to their blog.
2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
3. Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.

Megha’s questions:

1. Since when are you blogging?

I haven’t actually been blogging for very long at all. I started my old blog Emillia back in August 2017, and then started WITS only about 2 months ago! I’m just looking forward to all the plans that I’m working on, and can’t wait for the next part in my blogging journey.

2.What inspired you to start blogging?

When I initially started blogging, I guess that I just wanted somewhere where I could let all of my feelings out, and just offload. But now it’s so much more than that, in these few short months, I’ve made so many great friends and feel like such a part of the community. I really fit here, maybe even more than in the ‘real’ world.

3.You have a beautiful blog name. Why did you choose this name?

I’d love to say that there’s great, sentimental, metaphorical meaning behind my blog name. There isn’t. I don’t really know what drew me towards it, but I’m glad that I chose it in the end (or rather my twitter poll chose it…).

4.What is the ONE thing you don’t like about blogging?

Do I have to answer this?…. If I had to pick one thing, I guess I’d say that I do find it hard not to compare my little space on the internet, to people’s larger, more developed blogs. Of course, I know that I’ve only been writing on here for just a month, and compared to other peoples progress, I’m doing really well, but it’s sometimes hard not to compare every now and again.

5.What is your favourite book?

In one way this is an impossible question, but it’s also the easiest. For as long as I can remember, I’ve preached ‘The Fault In Our Stars’ to EVERYONE. As cliche as it may sound, I just think it’s’ so beautiful and true to life. Despite this, since I’ve really started reading again these past couple of years, I’ve read so many amazing books, I really don’t know if I can pick just one favourite.

6.If you could travel to a country anywhere in the world, where would you go?

Italy. Hands down. I’ve always wanted to go there, it’s just so beautiful and cultural (not to mention the fooodddd)

7.Which movie you can watch again and again and why?

To be honest, I’m not much of a film-watcher, most of the time I get bored halfway through. If I had to pick one, I’d say ‘Harry Potter and The Prisoner Of Azkaban’ . I think it’s the film most true to the books, and I just love it.

8.After a tiring day, would you prefer to cook a meal or order one?

Definitely cook. I find it really relaxing, although maybe not the cleaning up part 😂

9.What’s your favourite breakfast?

I don’t really tend to have big breakfasts- usually just some toast; though I do love pancakes….

10.What’s your goal for 2018?

I did set a few small goals at the start of this year (read them here), but I guess my main one would just simply be trying to really sort my head out, and start doing more things for me, and not others.

11.Which TV series are you watching currently?

At the moment, I’m not actually following any TV shows. I have an obsession with Friends though and am actually watching it as I’m writing this. It’s just so funny and light hearted; it really helps to take me away from the stresses of everyday life.


My questions:

  1. What is your all-time, go to song?
  2. If you could only read one book for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?
  3. What is your earliest memory?
  4. Do you have a most precious/treasured item, if so what is it?
  5. What would be your one tip to any new blogger?
  6. Do you have any pets, if so what?
  7. What is your most useful study tip?
  8. Do you believe in the after-life?
  9. What was the last movie/TV show that you watched?
  10. What fictional character can you relate to the most?
  11. What’s your favourite food?

My nominations:

  1. A – from Galaxy Girl
  2. Sophie – from Safe Haven
  3. Tori – from Simply Teenage Dreams
  4. Dana – from Carry on beautiful
  5. Astrid – from Hideawaygirl
  6. Roxanne – from the Happy Diary
  7. Amy – from Golden Book Girl
  8. Elena – from The littlest song bird
  9. Tabi – from Busy Bee
  10. Jasmine – from It’s Simply me, Jasmine
  11. Chloe – from Diary of a lonely girl

Well, that’s it for this post.

I really hope that you enjoyed reading my answers as much as I enjoyed answering them.

For now,

Love, Emillia

The Spinster Club series~ Book review

 

* All images are taken from GoodReads*

After reading this amazing, mind-changing series, I really couldn’t decide which one to review. Individually, they were brilliant in their own right, all focusing their plot on specific topics, such as mental health, feminism, and alcoholism; but as a series, they really showed a beautiful story of character development, and simply what it’s like to be a teenage feminist in the 21st century.

I’m going to review these individually (although not as long as I would normally), and then write a summary, with my thoughts on the series as a whole, and how it really did inspire me.

Enjoy x

 

 


Am I Normal Yet? (The Spinster Club, #1)Title: Am I Normal Yet? (The Spinster Club #1)

Author: Holly Bourne

Publisher: Usborne Publishing Ltd

Publication Date: August 1st 2015

Genre: Young adult, Contemporary, Mental health, Feminism

My rating: 5/5

5 stars

All Evie wants is to be normal. She’s almost off her meds and at a new college where no one knows her as the girl-who-went-crazy. She’s even going to parties and making friends. There’s only one thing left to tick off her list…

But relationships are messy – especially relationships with teenage guys. They can make any girl feel like they’re going mad. And if Evie can’t even tell her new friends Amber and Lottie the truth about herself, how will she cope when she falls in love?

I got this as a Christmas present from my friend, and WHY DIDN’T I READ THIS SOONER!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!  Holly tackles so many of the issues that teenage girls have to live with on the daily: mental health, feminism, friendship, and BOYS(!!!!!), all topped of with a dusting of delightful humour.

I don’t think I’ve read a book in which mental health (namely OCD) is so accurately described, and for once there really was no sugar coating, when it came to how having mental health issues doesn’t just affect you, it affects everyone around you.

I haven’t really read many books concerning feminism, but this really opened my mind to how difficult it is to not be seen as ‘the weird feminist’, but why? Surely we all deserve equal rights, no matter what our genitalia.

And you wanna know the thing I loved about it, it was one of the only books where the main character doesn’t end up with a boy at the end, and she focuses on being with her friend instead.

 


How Hard Can Love Be? (The Spinster Club, #2)Title: How hard can love be? (The Spinster Club #2)

Author: Holly Bourne

Publisher: Usborne Publishing Ltd

Publication date: February 1st 2016

Genre: Young adult, Contemporary, Romance, Feminism

My rating: 4/5

4 stars

Amber, Evie and Lottie: three girls facing down tough issues with the combined powers of friendship, feminism and cheesy snacks. Both hilarious and heart-rending, this is Amber’s story of how painful – and exhilarating – love can be, following on from Evie’s story in Am I Normal Yet?

All Amber wants is a little bit of love. Her mum has never been the caring type, even before she moved to California, got remarried and had a personality transplant. But Amber’s hoping that spending the summer with her can change all that.

And then there’s prom king Kyle, the guy all the girls want. Can he really be interested in anti-cheerleader Amber? Even with best friends Evie and Lottie’s advice, there’s no escaping the fact: love is hard.

After reading this, I couldn’t decide whether it was my favourite or least favourite instalment of the series.

As a standalone romance, it really drew me in, and I loved it; but compared to the other two, which heavily feature difficult topics, this was primarily a romance, which started to explore topics such as alcoholism. Also, there was seriously NOT ENOUGH Evie and Lottie!! Sorry, but I just had to say it.

Despite all of this, I really did love it, and it opened my mind up to something I’d not particularly considered before. I’ve never had any experience with alcohol abuse in my family before, so it was actually quite interesting to read about how it affects people.

I also liked the fact that feminism was heavily featured again.

It was just a beautiful, fluffy, sluff ball of awesomeness!


What's a Girl Gotta Do? (The Spinster Club, #3)Title: What’s a girl gotta do? (The Spinster Club #3)

Author: Holly Bourne

Publisher: Usborne Publishing Ltd

Publication date: August 1st 2016

Genre: Young adult, Contemporary, Feminism

My rating: 5/5

5 stars

 

HOW TO START A FEMINIST REVOLUTION:

1. Call out anything that is unfair on one gender

2. Don’t call out the same thing twice (so you can sleep and breathe)

3. Always try to keep it funny

4. Don’t let anything slide. Even when you start to break…

Lottie’s determined to change the world with her #Vagilante vlog. Shame the trolls have other ideas…

 
WHERE. DO. I. START?!?!?!?!?
This book was simply pure gold. PERIOD!
I was most excited to read this book, out of the whole series. I instantly loved Lottie, and couldn’t wait to read things from her point of view and get a real insight into her seemingly perfect life. She’s such a strong, fiery character, with so many views, and such great determination, even when the bullies tried to knock her down.
Despite all the opposition (especially from her parents), Lottie proved that if you really, really care about something, there’s nothing stopping you.

Out of the whole trilogy, this way by far the most inspiring, and made me realise that we can’t defeat the sexist on our own, and we all need to do our bit to convert the critics. I agreed with  EVERYTHING said, and seriously made me question how our society still views women.


If there is one trilogy that should be pushed into the hands of every teenage girl (and boy for that matter) is this one. Holly explores so many important topics, that simply shouldn’t be ignored.

They’ve also inspired me to stand up and shout out for what I believe in…. but I’ll talk more about that at a later date.
I hope you enjoyed my review…

Have you read any of the trilogy?

What are your views on feminism?

Love, Emillia

Pressure, grief & general rubbishness

These past few days, weeks, probably even months, I’ve felt this unrelenting weight upon me, like, no matter how hard I try, I just can’t ever be truly enjoying myself, and there’s always this part of me that is sad, and generally unhappy.

I try to take my mind off it, by focusing on school work and trying to get good grades, but if anything, that’s just making me even more stressed. The issue with school, is that they don’t seem to comprehend that we students actually have a life outside of studying, and sometimes it’s not just as easy as ‘sucking it up’ and ‘getting on with it’, as my teachers like to preach to us like a bible. Sometimes, just sometimes, we don’t have the physical or emotional energy to write the essay that’s due in the next day, or re-do the assessment that wasn’t ‘up to scratch’ (that’s the new thing they’ve introduced this week, if a piece of work isn’t up to your usual standard, you have to RE-WRITE IT, WITHOUT THE GODDAMNED TEACHERS MARKING IT!!!!!!! WE’RE NOT ROBOT YOU KNOW!!), and by putting so much pressure on us, it’s inevitable that we’ll break down eventually. And then, they’ll moan at us for being off school, ’cause we so bloody knackered.

This weekend will have been my brother’s (A) 21st birthday (I’m not going to go into details about it now), and I don’t think anyone really realizes how bad I’m taking it all. I’m one of these people who just puts on a happy face, and doesn’t necessarily tell anyone how shit I’m feeling. I know that’s a bad thing, but I can’t help it; I guess I don’t want to drag people down with me feeling crap, as I know for sure I’m not the only with issues. I’ve seen things that no one (let alone a teenager) should have to see, and I desperately need to talk about them, but in a way, I just want to try and forget about them, without having to drag it all up again. Does that make sense? It’s like I want to talk to someone, but I don’t. Most of my friends (except one, maybe two) have never had to go through anything as horrible as losing a family member, who also happens to be your best friend, (not that I would ever wish it upon my worst enemy, let alone my friends), but that also means that they don’t really have any idea how to help, and what to say. It’s like, a while ago I was having a really bad day, and as much as they were there for me, they didn’t know what to say or how to really make me feel better, which again obviously wasn’t there fault, but it’s just hard, you know?

I didn’t even have the energy to get into school today, I’m so physically and mentally tired. In a way, I think my mum making me stay home, however, has given me a chance to really catch up with myself, and realize that my health is so much more important than constantly stressing out over high grades, despite what my teachers say. I need to focus on me.

This Friday, I’m having my first grief counselling session, which, although I’m actually pretty terrified about how it will go, I really hope that it will be able to help me  ‘move on’, and go back to being worry free (apart from, you know, normal teenage stuff, like grades and boys(?)) .

I’ll be back soon with a longer, happier post on Friday,
For now,Love, Emillia

The Liebster Award

I’m SO SO SO excited for this!!!


Hello blogosphere,

So I was nominated for my FIRST EVER AWARD by the lovely Sarah (who B.T.W has the most b.e.a beautiful blog layout I’ve seen in a long time), and can’t wait to answer her questions.

For those of you who don’t know, the Liebster Award basically recognises new bloggers, and works by answering 11 questions (set by the person who nominated you), setting 11 questions and then nominating 11 bloggers who really deserve recognition.

Here are Sarah’s questions:

  1. What is your dream job, and why?

If what subjects you take/ your grades don’t apply, then I’d love to be either a vet or paediatric nurse. But I would love to work with children with disabilities in a children’s hospice, as I’ve grown up in the environment, and it’s so rewarding, and like a second home/family.

2. What was your favourite memory from 2017?

2017 wasn’t a great year, though my friends really did help to pull me through. I remember a few days after my birthday, me and my friends met up in town, and they gave me this beautiful jar filled with word and phrases that they described me with ext.. It was so lovely, and just a great day all together.

My brother had been seriously ill back in January, and we hadn’t seen him even smile, let alone laugh, for weeks, and the first time he really laughed when we lowered his bed will always be in my mind.

3. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?

Ohh either a cat or a hamster (what a great combination). They just seem to have the most laid back, care-free lives, that I can only dream of.

4. How do you like your coffee (or tea)?

Much to my tea-loving family, I pretty much refuse to drink any hot drinks what so ever (YES even hot chocolate), especially tea and coffee. Does that answer the question….?

5.What are 3 goals for your blog in 2018?

I definitely want to take part in more bloggers chats, as they’re great ways to meet like-minded bloggers. I’d love to gain 100 followers, as that would just be AMAZING!!! And a third one would probably to post consistently, ’cause that’s the one thing I start struggling with once school starts kicking in.

6. If you were going to a deserted island and could only bring one item, what would it be?

I would say a phone, but that wouldn’t get signal; so probably my bookcase (does that count as one item??) .

7.What is your biggest fear?

Probably losing all of my family and friends. I think being lonely would be the most horrible thing in the world.

8.What is one accomplishment you are most proud of?

I don’t really know to be honest. I’ve started fundraising, but I’m going to do lots this year, and have raised about £400 (or near enough), so I guess that? I just can’t wait to do more this year.

9.If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?

I’ve ALWAYS wanted to go to Italy, it’s just such a beautiful, interesting place, so I’d love to live there and live of ice cream and pizza for the rest of my life.

10. Why did you start blogging?

I started my first blog Emillia as I needed a platform to just express myself on, and also to take my mind off all the bad things going on. I wrote a bit more about this on my Q&A post from the other day.

11.What is your favourite thing to do on a Friday night?

Uhmmm, I normally like to just snuggle up on the sofa with a blanket, a giant pile of chocolate, and a good TV show or movie.


My questions:

  1. Who do you look up most to in the blogosphere?
  2. If you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be and why?
  3. In your opinion, what is the thing people like most about you?
  4. What fictional character do you think you can relate to most?
  5. If grades, salary ext. were not relevant, what would your dream job be?
  6. What is your greatest all-time memory?
  7. What’s your most precious item that you own?
  8. What’s your favourite type of post to write?
  9. What age would you want to be forever, and why?
  10. Is there a story behind your blog’s name, if so what?
  11. What is your all time favourite movie/book (series count)?

Nomination time:

  1. Bethany from Bethany and books
  2. Jas from Simply me, Jasmine
  3. Lana from Anxious-Kind
  4. Alysha from Floral reads
  5. Ash from Call me Ash
  6. Anna from Diversion3000
  7. Waves of awesomeness
  8. Sophie from Love, Soph
  9. Chloe from Diary of a lonley girl
  10. Golden book girl

Elm from Just Elm (also, sorry I know you’ve done this like 134584 times 😂😂)


I hope you loved reading my answers as much as I did answering them!

And remember, even is you haven’t been tagged, feel free to do the award anyway, it’s great fun.

Love, Emillia

Q&A: Blog inspiration and pets

A few weeks ago I put up a post on here and twitter about wanting to do a q&a to celebrate my new blog. I got a quite a few question, and can’t wait to answer them.

So without further ado, let’s get into it.


  1. What inspired you to start a blog?

I’ve been asked this question quite a few times now. I started my first blog, Emillia, in August as I wanted a platform where I could express myself, and make friends, but in the end, due to circumstances, I didn’t have much time to post on it, and when I finally did, I just felt…. disconnected? I don’t really know tbh, but all I knew was that I needed a change, thus WItStars was born. Although it’s only been a few weeks, I’m enjoying it SO much more, and am looking forward to the future.

2. Do you have any pets, if so what are they?

Yes. My collie dog is my bestest friend ever (sad right??) , and I just love her so much. I also have a cat, who seems to hold some sort of grudge and HATES me, and two guinea pigs who are ANCIENT.

3. What do you hope to achieve from having this blog?

I don’t really know, to be honest. World domination?? Maybe not. If anything, starting this blog was solely self-obsessed, as it was about my thoughts and feelings, but I would like to make people more informed about the effects of grief, and how to help friends who are grieving a loved one…

4. If you could describe yourself in 5 words what would they be?

Uhmmm (that doesn’t count as one right???), kind, fun, fangirl, creative and bookworm.

5. How are you finding the Blogosphere so far?

So far I’ve met some awesome people, who have welcomed me with open arms, and I can’t wait to meet more lovely bloggers. It’s such a great support network, and I’m just really enjoying it.


I hope you liked my little Q&A, there weren’t an awful lot of questions, but I’m so grateful to everyone who asked.

What inspired you to start your blog??

Until next time,

Love, Emillia

Uninspiring world ~ A poem

Hey guys,

So I posted this on my last blog Emillia quite a while ago, and had this weird urge to post it on WITS? I’ve changed some stanzas very slightly, but apart from that it’s exactly the same.


I’m just so uninspired,

In the world that we see,

People killing,

Dying,

For their so-called ‘religion’.

 

I know you can only get the rainbow with the rain,

But we’re all sick and tired of waiting,

For the sun to shine again.

 

They tell me not to worry,

Everything will be fine,

How can I believe them,

When it’s my generation,

Who’s faced with the burden,

Of righting the wrongs of the world?

 

We’re the preceders,

The weight’s on our shoulders,

Expected to be perfect for the sake of everyone else.

 

I just can’t fathom,

How to correct our fatal mistakes,

Why light a fire,

If you have no water to put it out again?


I hoped you liked my little poem; it wasn’t necessarily anything amazing, and I quite honestly have no idea what inspired it, but I like it nonetheless.

Love, Emillia

My January goals

This year I decided to set a few small goals for myself in 2018 (click here to read my post), and then each month have mini ones to help me along the way.

This month I want to focus on me and my state of mind more, as well as trying to get my blog out there a bit more???

My January goals: 

  • Start my counselling :

I have literally been waiting for MONTHS for my grief counselling to start. The company who are doing it also have monthly group meetings in school, which I have been going to, but I find them extremely hard to cope with, so don’t think I’ll go any more. I really do need this 1-to-1, and by leaving it longer everything’s just piling of top of me, and really affecting my self-esteem. It’s out of my control as to when it will start, but hopefully this month.

  • Be more social?? :

One of my main 2018 goals is to say YES more. My self-esteem had been so low lately, and it means that I just make up feeble excuses as to why I can’t go out. This month I want to start combatting that and being more social out of school. I went to the cinema yesterday, which I was so close to not doing, and I actually enjoyed myself!!!?!?!? I want to do more of that this month.

  • Read 4 books:

So my reading goal is 100 this year, (AHHH!!) which means that I need to read about 2 a week, but I thought I’d start of small this month, with one a week.

  • Take part in more bloggers chats:

I’ve been wanting to do this for a while, as they’re great ways to meet new bloggers. I can’t wait for Bethany’s #bookfanchat, starting this Saturday, and I hope I’ll meet loads of bookworms just like me.


I hope you enjoyed my small little goals post, there aren’t that many, but they’re important to me.

Until next time

Love, Emillia